Relationship Guidance

By: Safeer Mahdi

There are four (4) simple things you can do now to attain joy and happiness in
your life as well as your relationships:
1. Find joy in the moment for what it is and not what you want it to be
2. Love yourself unconditionally in order to receive unconditional love from
others
3. Become peaceful and more prosperous in your own life by removing the
judgments that you have toward yourself and others
4. Say thank you to all the people in your relationships who are the most
difficult – they are your greatest teachers
When you live in the moment you live in reality instead of the illusion. Loving
yourself unconditionally allows you to receive unconditional love from others.
When we refuse to pass judgment on anyone, we are able to accept who they are
as a reflection of who we are. In other words, what you like and dislike about
others is what you like and dislike about yourself. As a refresher, be sure to
regularly reread the chapters on “Living In The Moment,” “Unconditional Love”
and “Judgment.”
The “Relationship Pointers” below are designed to help you achieve greater
awareness and understanding of how natural laws can improve your relationship
with self and others.
 Awareness is accepting the responsibility for being the creator and master
of everything in your life, including your relationships.
 Self Reflection is a portal to discover unconditional love and passion within
you. Know and truly believe that you and your partner are mirrors of each
other being reflected in the opposite gender.
 Acceptance is knowing that everything in your world is God and that
relationships are a gift from God to expand, grow, and fine tune the reality
of the God within your own being.
 Appreciation is the recognition that you orchestrated everything in your
world as a personal movie written for the purpose of creating and re-
creating the never-ending script called “your life.”

 Communication is honesty with self and others that puts integrity and
impeccability above all else.
 Commitment is the act of giving the greatest gift that you can give to
yourself and others: Respect and honor the right of each person to be who
they are or who they choose to be in any given moment.
 Compromise is knowing that everything in the universe is equal and
opposite for you and your partner. Never see anyone as less or greater than
yourself.
 Friendship is a journey that begins through unconditionally liking and
honoring yourself which in turn enables you to unconditionally like and
honor someone else.
 Faith is knowing that there are no victims in this universe and that every
lesson found in a relationship (painful or joyful) has a divine purpose and
message attached for us to see.
 Patience is the greatest lesson to learn on this planet. It helps to teach us
that there is nothing wrong with our movie (life). Simply get out the way
and resist the urge to adjust the controls on your TV set.
 Passion is something you find when you stop thinking and start feeling,
touching, and allowing yourself to be who you feel with yourself and your
partner.
 Support is a basic premise for life that begins when we put our happiness
before the happiness of others without feeling guilty or selfish for doing so.
By carrying the frequency of unconditional love within your being you help
others to see it and feel supported.
 Respect is an inside reflection that reflects outwardly. You receive respect
in your relationships when you respect and honor yourself. Other people
can only see what you believe to be true about yourself. Giving thanks for
the lessons received in all your relationships is a great way of respecting
yourself and every decision you made.
 Trust is the glue that holds everything together in all aspects of life and
relationships. Without trust you become a ship without a rudder or a car
without a steering wheel. Trust leads us to the true self within.
 Understanding is knowing that we are the only person we can ever see, the
only person we can ever truly know, and the only person we can ever truly
love. Start now to live the change that you want to see in your life and
relationships.

 Family is the closest mirror for us to see ourselves and to enhance the God
power within. Family is the grandest reflection of who we are now. Truly
honor your family and be amazed at how fast you become an enlightened
healer of self and others.